We've been looking long for a solution to mount our iPads in the car. Our headrest poles are not straight up and down - they are bent at a 90 degree angle to allow the headrest to move towards the driver/passenger head for better comfort and positioning.
In any case, the velcro band is very well constructed and matches the black leather beautifully and you would not notice it at all. It is thin and perfectly smooth, and the driver/passenger would not feel it at all when resting their heads.
We wanted something that didn't have ugly arms, and a way to remove the iPads during a pit stop to avoid theft. This product accomplishes that easily. Just grab the iPad and go. It is so easy.
The supplied case w/ the velcro for the iPad itself is a soft plastic material with a large X shape patch of velcro sewn into it. I actually like the design - it's thin and the "border"/lip around the front of the iPad is very minimal. When the iPad is attached to the headrest, it sits flush to the headrest, looks completely natural -- and the whole set up honestly looks better that many of the factory DVD solutions out there. Not to mention the screen is bigger and the retina display resolution beat anything a car maker would sell you for $2000.
For the price, I think you will not find a better solution out there if you are trying to accomplish some of the same things. Easy on/off, less "permanent" than headrest pole designs, not crazy looking arms and attachments, etc. I might add that we do not regularly have iPads in our car, and we only plan on using this on road trips. Removing the headrest band is done in about 2 seconds, and putting it back on is maybe 5-10 seconds. So we will only be placing the band on when we need it!